6 Things I Heard Women Say Last Month

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6 Things I Heard Women Say Last Month

After Kim Whitlock asked me to start writing a column, I started paying closer attention to the things women say in passing…in meetings, at events, in text threads, at lunch, and in those quick conversations that somehow reveal everything.

What I noticed is this: WOMEN ARE CARRYING A LOT.

Careers. Kids. Aging parents. Confidence. Hormones. Ambition. Pressure. Technology. Calendars. And the mental load of remembering absolutely everything.

Some of the things I heard were funny. Some were honest. And some were casual comments with a much bigger truth underneath.

Here are six things I heard women say last month and how we might reframe them.

1. “UGH, I should have said that in the meeting.”

We have all been there. The meeting ends, and suddenly your brain delivers the exact sentence or idea you wish you had said. Well, it is not too late.

Your voice is still valuable, even if it comes later, but just don’t let “later” become your default.

Yes, send the follow-up email. Circle back with, “I was thinking more about our conversation, and I wanted to add this.” It is never too late to speak up.

But also, let this be the reminder: you were invited to sit at the table for a reason. So speak. Share the idea. Ask the question. Push back when needed. Show them who you are.

2. “I mean, if it was just the four of us women in that meeting, we would have had this solved by lunchtime.”

This one made me laugh because there is truth in it. Sometimes women already see the issue, the solution, the next step, and the most efficient path forward. But instead of being heard, they are talked over, interrupted, or challenged just to be challenged.

Let’s stop assuming our clarity needs permission.

Women are often collaborative by nature. We process quickly. We connect dots. We think about the people, the logistics, the risks, the relationships, and the outcome all at once.

That is not “overthinking.” That is leadership. Sometimes the solution is already in the room. They just need to stop talking long enough to hear it.

3. “I asked ChatGPT to help me write an email, and now I sound like I’m applying to be the Queen of England.”

AI is amazing until it turns “Just checking in” into a royal proclamation.

AI is not here to replace your voice, but it is here to support it. Use it to organize your thoughts, save time, and clean up your message, but DO NOT let it erase your personality.

In business, the people who stand out will not be the ones using AI the most. It will be the ones using AI with the most humanity, humor, and discernment.

4. “My kid is home sick, I have back-to-back meetings, and I’m one email away from pretending I lost Wi-Fi.”

Funny because it is real.

Working women are often expected to perform as if they do not have personal lives, while managing personal lives as if they do not have jobs.

You’re not failing because two important parts of your life need you at the same time. Sometimes the strongest business skill is clear communication.

“I have a sick child home today, so I may need to be camera-off.”

“I may need to step away for a few minutes.”

“I’m juggling something at home today, so I may be slower to respond.”

Professionalism does not require pretending you are not human.

5. “Why does John breathe so loud? Like, WTF, did he just run a lap before the Zoom call?”

Sometimes it is not John. Actually, it is NOT John. It’s us.

Sometimes you are just overwhelmed, burnt out, overstimulated, perimenopausal, sleep-deprived, or carrying stress that has nowhere to go.

I believe we often judge others more harshly when we do not feel good within ourselves. So instead of only asking, “Why is John so annoying?” maybe ask, “What is this reaction trying to tell me about me?” Do I need rest? Space? Food? Movement? A boundary?

Your irritation may not be the problem. Our irritation is often times our information.

But yes, John might still need to mute himself J

6. “I saw your video this morning. I know I need to start doing that, but I hate how I look on camera.”

I hear this all the time.

Being on camera can feel uncomfortable because we see every little thing we do not like about ourselves. But most people are not watching your video to audit your face.

You do not have to look perfect. You do not have to sound perfect. You do not have to become an influencer. You just need to be relatable. And guess what…perfect is NOT relatable.

The only way to get more comfortable being visible is to practice being visible. Visibility is not vanity. Visibility is a business skill.

There is so much wisdom hidden inside the things we say casually. Behind the jokes, the sighs, and the “I’ll figure it out,” there is strategy, resilience, humor, frustration, brilliance, and a whole lot of emotional labor.

Women are not just trying to do more. Many of us are trying to do business, leadership, family, health, friendship, aging, technology, identity, and ambition all at the same time.

So maybe the lesson is this: listen more closely to yourself. To the women around you. To the sentence underneath the sentence. Because sometimes the thing someone says in passing is actually the thing so many of us needed to hear out loud.

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Sabrina Bier is a Chicago Realtor, Director of Digital Media + Education at Proper Title, licensed continuing education instructor, speaker, and storyteller who believes mindset is one of the most powerful tools we have in business and in life. After navigating a life-changing accident, chronic illness, multiple surgeries, career pivots, and seasons of reinvention, Sabrina has built her work around resilience, education, visibility, and helping people keep going when life or business gets hard. Through WiT, she shares real conversations, practical reframes, and honest reflections for women who are building meaningful careers while learning to trust their voice, their story, and their strength.